You must forgive me, but I chose to make a separate post out of this. Due entirely to the lengthiness of my reply, which I did not anticipate.
So, and you always make the first step, well that is my kind of man. Then lets see if you could impress me. Let’s assume a absolute normal situation. You would see me on street. What would you do to get my attention, and how would you manage that I don´t lose interest? Of course its difficult for you because you don´t know me well. Armand, Lestat or Santino would have better chances to seduce me, but lets give it a try.
But a little help. Everything that has to do with food is boring. And I do not like compliments about my appearance. I wouldn´t believe you. Besides, it is not imaginative.
I have a weakness for eyes, the right looks makes me shiver, and that is a good thing.
Food is boring to me, as well, since I cannot indulge in it. Besides, my experience is limited and I doubt anyone would want to listen to me express variations of how to season a dormouse. Just the same, I do not like superficial comments. When people compliment me on my appearance, I find it tedious because what an obvious thing to say! I never believe superficial compliments people give me when they barely know me. So just the same, I do not engage in such compliments myself. And so you know, when I tell you that you are beautiful or that your eyes are so very pretty, I am being sincere.
I would try to approach you in as least threatening manner as possible. Somewhere bright, somewhere full of people and life, somewhere where you wouldn’t be suspicious of a very tall man approaching you at night. I feel that to start a relationship off with distrust and suspicion is a very bad thing, and hinders the possibility of really communicating. So you must not see me as odd, strange, or a threat to your safety. At least not yet.
It is very hard to start a conversation with someone, especially because the usual conversation starters I find unnatural to me. So it is very important that we develop a bit of interest before the conversation starts, that way we can easily avoid any awkwardness of first approach because we already know that it is a move that is both welcomed and desired. So I would find you somewhere full of activity, and I would be close but not too close. Close enough that you would notice me as I would have already noticed you, of course, and now wished for your attention and interest.
I would first try to catch your eye because the eyes are so beautifully expressive, and can say so much in the absence of speech. No need for tricks here; friendships should never begin that way, should they?
But it is not enough to just be seen and looked at once or twice. You must show an interest in me more than the casual glance, and I would readily show you that I am already interested. As you can tell, I am hardly the shy or insecure type, though I am not so arrogant as to believe that you would be interested in me easily. No, it is something I know I must work at, and earn. And let me assure you that I do nothing “creepy” like “check you out.” No, that is an awful way to project and easily engendered distrust in a woman.
Unfortunately, when you do not know someone, you must rely in some measure on how you appeal to them on a physical level. This is more than just “attraction” because not all connections come with attraction as its purpose or intent. Instead, it is an interest to know someone, and those are harder relationships to initiate because they must rely a bit at first on the physical. In other words, “does he appear interesting and/or trustworthy?” So I would have to charm you with looks until I knew that the first barrier had been broken and you were ready for my closer company. One can always tell when this time has come from the looks received in return. The eyes have a sublimely beautiful language all their own.
Women always gives signals, whether they are aware of them or not. There is just something about the female gender that makes the ability to express so much greater. Men are terribly direct, but women are mistresses of subtlety, and must be read like a puzzle, or a mystery. That is why the pleasure of unwinding a woman completely is so very rewarding.
When the time comes, when I knew you were receptive of me, I would approach you slowly, and in that way you would know that I was coming. This would give appropriate time for you to either send me a signal that you do not wish my company, or to prepare yourself for it if you should wish a more direct means of connection. I would smile, of course, to further express my harmlessness and friendly intent. Though I do have a habit of staring at someone directly in the eyes, which is either disarming and puts people off, or they welcome the directness as it is a good way to measure a person’s threat level. I have also learned that my height can be intimidating for women, so it is best that I sit down or find some way to lessen the advantage I have. Yes, I know most women love a tall man, but that appreciation tends to come after the woman has discovered the man is no threat to her and will never feel overwhelmed or towered over.
And then I will begin a conversation with you. I will say something you couldn’t possibly know and avoid all comments about physical appearance and casual conversations like “nice weather” or “beautiful night, isn’t it?” No, I will try to catch your interest by immediately beginning a conversation that is of some interest. If you should reply with mutual interest, I will continue and eventually we will begin a conversation in earnest. I will make my intent to know you known by asking you to sit, and perhaps I would buy you something to keep you engaged with me like coffee or hot chocolate, or something irresistibly delicious. No strings attached, but as you sit there drinking, I would continue to speak with you. We would share opinions and knowledge mutually. You would tell me about yourself and I would tell you about the world.
I find that artificial sensuality does not suit me, and so my goal is typically to appeal to someone based on my openness, my intellect, and my sincere desire to know them without expectation. If I am to wear a mask, I would prefer it be something that reflects who I am rather than what I am or what it is that I wish to be. I am naturally a very guarded person, but I am still utterly honest and true to myself. I give myself over in small pieces, each bit coming as a reward when a person allows me to come closer and closer. The better I am received, the more of myself I want to give over.
Predator though I may be, I am not always seeking prey. My manner of approach is also altered by my intent, and what it is I hope to achieve and ultimately get in turn. It is easy to skip preliminaries when my respective partner wishes the same, as well. Association is innocent, and most things come out of it. It is a promise, is it not? Of a lasting friendship, a kinship, or even further deeper intimacy if interest is directed toward it.
I would not approach you with the sole purpose to seduce you as Lestat, Armand, and even the dreadfully banal Santino would. What a waste of an opportunity to know you first. I prefer rather an attraction to personality because I respect you. I would never treat you as an object to seduce, or to stroke my ego with. You are no simple instrument of self-gratification.
Instead, I would wish to meet you on a level of mutual respect, knowledge, and appreciation. Oh yes, I love beauty absolutely, and I love to seduce and be close, but real beauty very often comes in hidden forms, and beauty blossoms as marvelously from the inside as it does from the out. In fact, often more so. And your true beauty could very well be what is inside of you, and to have this reward I must look for it and draw it out of you. This would be the beauty I want, and from that beauty would come an insatiable and fathomless passionate desire to seduce you. You would know then that my ardent want to seduce you is because I want to seduce the entire being that is you, not to satiate myself or inflate my ego– and not to satisfy a temporary desire.
No, I will take my time. Our words and motions will be like a dance, though it must be one that I have artfully choreographed and lead you confidently through. It is presented without manipulation or artificiality. I design it, create it, so that your motions will follow mine with a surety that will come as a comfort to you, and help release any guard you have placed around your mind and heart. I will show you the steps of our dance, of course, and carry you when you need me to, or when you are unsure of where to step and what to hold. It will be elegant and graceful, never a moment when you feel you have been abruptly or harshly handled, but before you know it you will find that you are dizzy and cannot grasp the passage of time. The world around you begins to blur as I move you faster and faster, but with a gentle hold so that you know you are safely held. Before you know it, you begin to anticipate the next step. And wonder so delicately, with such fragile trust, why it is that my words are spoken as surely as my step, but they also feel to be a whisper inside of your head and body that, strangely enough, you feel rather than hear.
Can you imagine a conversation like that?
That is how I would seduce you. I like to crave until it threatens to tear me in two, and to make others feel this way, as well. But so unexpectedly.